Updated: Sep 8
Sharing what I have learned means a lot to me. After interviewing 100's of people, I saw the everyday struggles of our lives and how we may overcome them. I am here to share ideas of seeing the world, understanding fellow humans, and liberating ourselves from life's expectations.
You can watch the short film version of this blog at the link https://youtu.be/YmxfLNGzBMI
"This is not about creating a dream life and becoming the best version of yourself. It is about appreciating the life you have and embracing who you are right now" – Wellbeing Writer, Owen Morgan.
I wanted to take this time to thank every person I have interviewed over the last five years. Every conversation has opened my eyes, heart, and mind to what it is to be human. I have seen how trauma recovery looks, how understanding our brain and nervous system can change our perception of life, and the multitude of techniques to support our wellbeing.
The People Who Have Inspired Me
A thank you to all the books and research that pathed the way to my trauma recovery, including the work of Bessel Van Der Kolk, Peter Levine, Stephen Porges, Daniel Siegal, Rick Hanson, Kristin Neff, Paul Gilbert, Gabor Mate, Tara Brach, Jack Kornfield, Loch Kelly, Bruce Perry Joseph Goldstein, Pete Walker, Judson Brewer, Mark Nepo, Kelly McGonigal and Johann Hari.
A heartfelt thank you to my partner and Mindfulness Teacher, Carla-Jo Geraghty, whose wisdom and insight transformed my life. Her work in the world is so important and can help so many.
My Why For Writing This Blog
We often hear people say, "The dream is to be their own boss, run their own business, and finally move on from the day job." We may see those who take the leap and take control of lives as inspiring, motivational, and brave. Society can see success in earning a good income, being a leader, social media influencer, or doing something that matters. The mindset and motivational speakers of the world will tell you to work hard, reach your goals, achieve your dreams and step into your true authentic power. Whether you are starting your own business, working your way up in an industry, or being the most prolific in your field, you could be seen as courageous, motivated, and inspiring.
Some parts of this hold some truth, but what happens when a worldwide pandemic arrives. When the world as we know it falls to its knees, we are all brought to an equal footing. We realize how vital all roles in society are. We saw the people on minimum wage, for example, grocery store workers, sanitation workers, parcel delivery workers come to the fore. We saw those in the medical sector and care services worked to the bone in the pursuit to save our loved ones and neighbors. I see this as courageous, motivating, and inspiring.
We do not need to think of this as a competition or a class issue. We all have value, worth, and something to offer to the world and our fellow humans. It is to break down the class barriers, honoring the different backgrounds from which we originate, and respecting each other's impact on this world.
I could sit here and tell you how I turned my life around after multiple traumas as a child, share how I overcame debilitating depression and anxiety and set up my own business in fitness and bodywork. I could tell you how I set up a global company that supported people's health and wellbeing. I could share stories of the many people I massaged over a 9-year career or how I ran multiple half marathons and beat a Guinness world record. Not to mention the life-threatening illness at 32 in which I thought I was going to die.
While all those stories are true and very much compelling, I found a sense of liberation, freedom, and contentment the day I closed my business, gave up the entrepreneur life, and brought my dream of running a big earning company to an end. To be happy, content, and proud of me, I needed to be my own boss and set my own hours. So often, the world tells us this is the dream.
The fact is I was stressed, burnt out, chasing the next client, and never able to rest. I was very good at what I did and had a fantastic reputation. I was good with marketing, building business relationships and had an infectious energy. In its own right, this was a recipe for success, but what does success even mean. Success doesn't guarantee happiness, security, or stability. We see this time and time again in the film and television world. What exactly are we building towards, aiming for, and seeking to accomplish?
I now work in a grocery store, working the graveyard shift putting food on a shelf and working 40 hours a week. My qualifications as a massage therapist, personal trainer, and former global company creator are in my rearview mirror. Would society see me as lesser? See me as a failure? Perhaps. Could I be doing more, pushing for higher roles, or living up to my potential? Maybe?
Ask yourself why, why does it matter what I do? Does it change who I am? Does it change my worth? Does it impact my ability to make a difference? I want this to be the first thing you ponder as you read this blog. Why do I feel so much better now and more aligned with my truth? What were all those hours of hard work studying and running a business designed to achieve? Why would society see me as this inspiring force in the business sector?
The Awareness Space Blog and Film Series will dive into the many aspects of human experience, societal expectations, and collective belief systems. Each blog/film will dive into what I have learned on my journey, what I have learned from the 100's of people I have interviewed, and the books I have read around health and wellbeing.
Can we see that when all we have achieved and accumulated is taking away, we are all just human beings with a set of basic needs? We are so much more alike than we are different. The present moment is all we have, and being free to explore right now is where our true authentic self resides.
Something For You To Ponder
Who are you? What makes you, you? What are your values, beliefs, and motivators in life?
I thank you for reading, and I hope this has been of value to you. My next blog will be about the foundation of safety and how this underpins how we can feel well, present, and connected to others.
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